14th of February is celebrated as “Valentine’s Day” worldwide. It is also termed as Lover’s day. Couples or Lovers, this day implodes themselves with gifts, cards, dates and pompous celebrations. There too stay another sect of individuals who don’t have a partner to be all cute around on Valentine’s day. They are the so called “SINGLE” sects of people. We can write a lots of quotations and plan ample of surprises for the couples to make their V-day special. Let’s impart this valentine’s day for the single community. Being a single myself, devoid of self-love, I want to shower all the love and pamperings on me.
Self-love is the truest form of devotion. It is the immense important nature in an individual who seek love from others. You need to be self sufficient with yourself. No wonder, if you dislike yourself or consider your own needs as a secondary thing, you can never bestow love on anyone else. So, let this year be the time you actually invest something in your account and pour yourself the glass of wine.
3 Reasons to love yourself this Valentine’s Day
The benefits people get after dating themselves are huge. It is a wonderful feeling to be able to love someone else, or being loved; nevertheless the happiness and contentment of being able to love yourself is extraordinarily important. The reasons why to love yourself are:
1. You take responsibility for your own happiness
Perhaps one of the biggest myths about relationships is that the other person is responsible for our happiness. When we date, we look for someone who will make us happy, rather than someone who we can share our happiness with. So, if we’re not feeling happy, fulfilled, or loved, we immediately blame the other person. This puts an unfair burden on them. However you want to feel every day is no one’s responsibility but your own.
When you date yourself, you do things for you that make you feel happy, fulfilled, and loved. And the best part is, when you feel those things yourself, you share that with your partner, and the happiness, fulfillment, and love goes so much deeper than when only one person is responsible for making you feel those things.
2. You show up more fully and authentically on dates and in relationships
Dating yourself helps you to show up more authentically as you on dates and in your relationship. This matters because it is so important to confidently ask for what you need, and stand by your values in a relationship, without apologizing or feeling guilty.
So often I see women apologize for their beliefs or feel guilty for asking anything. Ultimately, they spend dates, or worse, entire relationships, hiding behind who they really are just to earn their partner’s love or approval. This almost never ends well. It is so much better to show up fully as yourself on a first date and get out of the wrong relationships earlier rather than later, saving you time and heartache.
3. It’s fun to date yourself
Dating yourself is a ton of fun. You get to do what you want, when you want, and how you want. It’s also true that the relationship we have with ourselves is a reflection of the relationship we have with others. When we can truly start to have more fun being by ourselves and truly love ourselves, we attract relationships into our lives that reflect those qualities.
This Valentine’s Day, no matter your relationship status, I challenge you to date yourself. No pity parties, no desperate last minute search for a date, and no male bashing. And if you’re in a relationship, take the pressure off your partner and just tell him that you’re gonna date yourself this year.
10 ways to date yourself this Valentine’s Day
1. Get ready for the day
The first thing you need to do after waking up in the morning, is have a cup of hot tea or coffee. Make the morning more special by going out on streets or your terrace to enjoy the hot sip of drink. Spend some time with the birds, free yourself with the morning breeze and take time to indulge in the beauty of the day. Take a bubble bath and put on your best attire for the day. It’s not mandatory to feel beautiful about yourself only on a particular day but each day.
2. Go for a body spa or Mani- Pedi
Nothing saves self care quite like a spa day. You’ve been dying to try that new bath bomb, and your nails are in desperate need of a fresh new coat. Maybe you’ll even do a facial, or book a massage at a local spa or gym. The opportunities to get some much-needed rest, relaxation, and rejuvenation are endless.
Draw some hot water and let yourself soak. Your skin will thank you for the time you’re spending caring for it instead of stressing out. If you’re really struggling on how to properly execute the perfect spa day, I always recommend scrolling through Pinterest for some DIY ideas.
3. Spend time at a coffee shop
This is an amazing feeling to find a nice and soothing place to read and have your favorite cappuccino. You won’t have to feel self conscious about having a coffee date with yourself, because most people like to spend their time this way already. Whether they’re working, writing, or just letting their mind wander — people are attracted to these atmospheres when they want some solo time. You also won’t have the pressure of sparking conversation with someone else. Sometimes being social can be incredibly overrated.
4. Take a walk with yourself this Valentine’s Day
This is such a treat to yourself, that you spare some time to walk. People love evening walks, this practice make them healthy and realize the beauty that they hold. Walk with your pet to the nearest alienated natural beautiful places, away from the humdrum of the city life. Getting outside and exploring nature, whether its new or familiar, is a great relaxer that brightens your day and could even lead you to seeing something you hadn’t noticed before, even if it’s right by where you live.
5. Treat yourself with a book
Beauty is more than skin deep, so make sure to give your brain a work out and indulge in a good book this Valentine’s Day. Whilst it’s lovely to read around the subject and immerse yourself in your degree or flick through articles on twitter, sometimes it’s a nice escape to be swept away into a story book. Studies suggest that reading improves our memory as well as our emotional intelligence, which means we are more capable of interacting with others and it’s also a great topic for conversation with your dinner date. Moreover, there are studies suggesting that as little as half an hour of reading a week can boost our confidence and self-esteem and help us to make better life decisions. There are so many books to choose from too, from a trashy rom-com to a more high-brow classic. Ask your friends and family for their recommendations.
6. Focus on some fitness or take yourself to a yoga class
Working out or focusing the mind and body in a yoga class truly makes you feel so good. Yoga has so many benefits for your body, from stimulating your metabolism and encouraging smoother digestion to de-stressing the system and clearing problems such as spots or tired eyes. Try different styles to find your perfect match, if you prefer your exercise to be slow and gentle, then try yin yoga, but if you want to get your heart rate up then hot yoga is the one for you. Hence, this Valentine’s day, flex your muscles and join some fitness classes.
7. Make a movie marathon with your mates
It is not necessary that you need to have a relationship with someone, to enjoy all the beautiful things in life. Call your girl mates for a sleep over and plan out your most favorite list of movies.
8. Buy a plant
Go and buy yourself a nice fern or other plant because who doesn’t love a little photosynthesis?! Plants supposedly make people feel better plus you have to care for it so like it’s kind of like having a significant other. Water the plant, make something live. This can be a good gift which you can give to yourself.
9. Cut off all the social media interactions for a day
On Valentine’s Day, shut off your dating apps, turn on ‘do not disturb’, and give yourself permission to forget about everyone else and just focus on yourself. This day is all about self-love. Don’t waste the romance on anyone who doesn’t appreciate it. Avoid Instagram and Facebook entirely (they tend to be the worst for showing off Valentine’s Day gifts and showy plans) and be cautious on Twitter, where the ‘lol, I’m so single’ jokes can tip from self-deprecating to self-hating.
10. Prepare yourself a wholesome dinner
It is nice when someone else makes you dinner, but cooking for yourself is honestly a great way to relax. It doesn’t have to be complicated, but making yourself your favorite home–cooked meal will make you feel like a million bucks. If you want a classic comfort food, whip out some spaghetti and meatballs. To get extra fancy, you can make your own sauce, which will make you feel like you are in Italy, full of love and whatever other mushy shit people are into these days.
Valentine’s Day doesn’t have to just be for couples. Self–love is just as satisfying (if not more) as getting love from someone else. This Valentine’s Day, you don’t have to worry about other people, because you’ve already landed a hot date with the baddest individual around: yourself.